Vulnerable share: As a new business owner, it can be challenging to pour your passion into something that didn’t exist and transform it into something that matters to other people. Don’t get me wrong, I am super grateful for the people who have chosen me as a coach. I am just opening up about the ups and downs of building something from the ground up. Even though I have loads of experience with guiding and counseling people, I am giving myself permission to be new at the business side of things. Why didn’t y’all tell me about all the administrative work this would require?!!!

I know that I have a certain calling on my life. I know that I have a specific skill set. I know that I have spent endless hours studying the things I want to help people with. I have always been the girl who people come to for help with their relationships and I know there is a reason for that. There is a reason I accidentally ended up majoring in psychology and minoring in sociology. I don’t believe in coincidence.

I am extremely fascinated by human relationships, especially marginalized humans, and there will probably always be a part of me that loves being in service to humanity. It breaks my heart to witness all the hurting, lonely souls fighting to be seen and heard. It pains me to see how many of “us feel like they don’t have the ability to maintain healthy connections with the people they care about. Seeing people stuck in cycles of trauma, abuse and hopelessness is overwhelming to me at times.

I know the media would have us thinking that Black men and Black women can’t live in harmony with one another. I know that the music, the movies and the shows on television make money off of our dysfunctional relationships. I know a lot of us think Black love is a thing of the past and has no place in this modern world.

I wholeheartedly would like to help as many people as I can to dispel those poisonous lies. Satisfying relationships require intelligence. I think if we categorized relationship building as a skill that we could cultivate, we would leave less up to chance. They don’t magically happen. All the prayers in the world won’t cut it. All the hoping and wishing that another person acts right won’t get any of us from point A to point B.

This is why I don’t spend much time on social media anymore. My sensitive heart can’t take too much of it. I am constantly thinking about how I can be of service without burning myself out. I have been building a website so that I can own my intellectual property and share it with those who need it. I am creating a curriculum with my people in mind. I am thinking about classes I can offer at affordable prices. I am preparing programs to help move people from where they are to where they want to be. No matter what, I am on the side of Black love.

I hold myself accountable to give people empowering tools and the competence to use them. I hear so many stories where people are stuck in vicious cycles and I just want to scream sometimes. Why? Because I’ve been there. Stuck in cycles. Now, let’s be clear. I can’t promise to fix anyone’s life. However, I can offer some alternative ways of looking at the issues that create friction so that we can create more harmonious relationships with one another. I can help people unpack patterns and see themselves with more clarity. I can pour love into the people who come to me.

Why? Because I love to see Black people working together. On a soul level.

I know I’m not the only one. I know that the people I seek to help are also seeking me. Even if we haven’t physically met one another, our spirits are scouring the earth for that exchange.

I keep gently reminding myself: Someone is ALWAYS seeking what I have to offer. I just have to make myself available for it.